For Parents
If you're reading this, you're most likely worried about your teen or young adult. They just don't seem like themselves anymore. You can't remember the last time they were able to relax without overthinking, or maybe it's been a long time since they really laughed and seemed engaged with the family. They may be isolating themselves or avoiding things. There may be substance use involved or even self-harm. It's scary. You know that they are struggling, but sometimes you can't help but get angry and yell at them to get it together. I have so much compassion for you. You just want to see your child happy again.
The good - or maybe not so good for you - part is that if you are getting the brunt of their frustration, that means you are their safe person. They trust that even if they show you the darkest, most scared parts of themselves, you'll still be there for them. It's not an excuse for disrespect, but maybe it can provide you some perspective on why they are taking it out on you. A lot of the time it's not even about you. They are trying to regulate their emotions and make sense of what they are experiencing, and it's coming out all wrong. But if they are talking to you at all, that's a good sign that they know you'll still love them no matter what. And that's amazing. It shows me that you're doing the best you can.
My role is to support you in getting your teen or young adult through these challenges. Sometimes it takes a different adult to say the exact same things you do for them to accept it. Frustrating, I know, but it's effective. I've been doing this work for over 15 years and I pride myself on developing meaningful relationships with clients through authenticity and mutual respect. I see the good kid inside of them, but I also won't hesitate to call them out if they are making unhealthy choices. My clients stay with me as they move through different stages of life, and I consider it a privilege to be able to help them grow and become the people that they are meant to be. I provide psychoeducation, teach coping tools, and help them learn how to make better decisions. I am passionate about the work I do, and I make you the same promise as I do for my clients- I will believe in them until they can believe in themselves. Please contact me so we can get started.